Three Ways to Make Back to School Less Stressful

I love back to school season. And not because the kids go back to school but I love the fresh start, autumn around the corner, school supplies and new clothes. But... it can be a little hectic. Summer never seems long enough so everyone is rushing to buy back to school outfits and supplies at the last minute. Everything on your supply list seems to be sold out. And you're not sure if you are supposed to get your stepkid a new backpack or if biomom is planning on that. Here are three ways … [Read more...]

2 Ways to be Present with Your Kids

Couple of days ago T was playing with the indoor basketball hoop (that is actually the baby's but that's another story 😊) and he turned to me and said "where's the ball?" You guys, I spent probably a good five minutes looking for the ball before I turned around and looked at him. You know where the ball was? Under his shirt! T thought it was hilarious that he tricked me. I felt bad. Really bad. If I had just stopped and really looked at him I would've seen it right away. I was just … [Read more...]

Giving Grace Even When Kids are Grumpy

Do you ever just feel grumpy? Do you forget to say please and thank you? Do you snap at the people you love? Confession: I do. Why is it then when the teenager is grumpy I get so bent out of shape about it? I don't like feeling this way. I need to ask God to change my heart. To help me give T grace. Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. James 1:19 Rather than get frustrated when he is grumpy, I should listen … [Read more...]

Encouragement for Moms of Littles (Overwhelmed) 

 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and His ears are open unto their prayers.  1 Peter 3:12 The first few weeks of being home with some newborn were Over. Whelm. Ing. I didn't expect to feel that way since I'd been a stepmom for ten years, I'd pulled all nighters in college, and my husband is an amazing dad and partner. I had no idea. I had heard that the tiredness you feel when sleep deprived from a newborn is like nothing else but I didn't get it. And it used to make me mad … [Read more...]

Encouragement for Stepmoms (He is Near)

 God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us. Acts 17:27 Being a stepmom can be a lonely place. You're a mom but you don't have the same rights as a bio mom and often your child feels conflict about loving you or having a relationship with you because it's seen as a betrayal to the bio mom. It's hard to express how that feels. Your hubby can try to understand and be empathetic but you still feel alone. Can you … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Encouragement

I wrote this post almost two years ago for the same reason I write most posts: because it's what I need to hear myself! One of our biggest worries and fears as moms/stepmoms is that we might be messing up our kids. We question our decisions and actions. I feel like as stepmoms we might second guess ourselves even more. As I wrote in the post from the past: Mamas, you are not messing up your kids. You may mess up now and again but you are not messing up your kids. You are human. You will … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Down Time

From the archives: Down Time   Why is it that it can be so much easier to write about the struggles than it is to write about the good times? Well, I'm going to be intentional in recognizing the good times. Like today, right now T and I are relaxing, hanging out together. I'm reading (and writing this) and he is playing dragonvale, telling me all about his dragons and people visiting his island. I love this time together.   Or last night, my parents took T and me to … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Seven Ways to Pray for your Stepkid

From the archives: Seven Ways to Pray for your Stepkid Ever feel stumped when you are wanting to pray for your stepkid? Here are seven ideas that stepmoms can use to pray for their kids. (Since I have a stepSON, I’m going to use “stepson” and “he” in these prayers but you can easily switch that if you have a stepdaughter.) 1. Pray for his salvation. Father God, I pray that my stepson asks Jesus into his heart. I pray that he is on fire for you Lord and that he will have a close and growing … [Read more...]


When we told T that he was going to be a big brother we had no idea what his reaction would be. There's going to be a big age difference between these two siblings. We hoped he would be excited of course. We gave him a t-shirt that read "if you <picture of mustache> I'm the big brother" (mustache = must ask - get it? ha!) and a teeny-tiny onesie that read "I <3 my big brother." He was smiling when he saw that. We went away a few days later for a long weekend as a family and he would … [Read more...]

What I Wore Wednesday: Family Outing

The Saturday before Father's Day the family spent the day on a cavern tour. It was pretty amazing. The lighting in my bedroom is terrible so I apologize for this photo. I'm wearing an Old Navy striped top (similar), with GAP jeans and Aeropostale shoes (similar). I added a corduroy blazer from GAP (similar) for in the caves where it was a bit chilly. About the caves... this was a fun family activity and luckily only a couple hour car ride away. We have lots of these in California. And it is … [Read more...]