Encouragement for Stepmoms (Consistent)

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 You hear how important being consistent with your child is. But it's not easy, is it? It's hard to be consistent with bedtimes, eating healthily and consequences when you're running from homework to the ball field and trying to feed your kiddo at some point before shower and bed. And what if your kid only lives with you part-time? Being consistent while parenting isn't … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Independence

From the archives: Independence We are working on teaching T some independence and responsibility. He's almost 14 and it seems maybe we have done too much for him over the years. Helped him too many times. Rescued him too often. Consequences and structure are so important to all children but I tend to think even more so with children who split their time between homes. M and I try. There are so many extra dynamics when you co-parent with an ex. It's easy to blame the other parent for … [Read more...]

Independence

We are working on teaching T some independence and responsibility. He's almost 14 and it seems maybe we have done too much for him over the years. Helped him too many times. Rescued him too often. Consequences and structure are so important to all children but I tend to think even more so with children who split their time between homes. M and I try. There are so many extra dynamics when you co-parent with an ex. It's easy to blame the other parent for everything! I try to remember that we … [Read more...]

How to Make Communicating with the Ex Less Frustrating

I would be willing to bet that every stepmom and her husband have had at least one frustrating communication experience with the kids' mom. If your situation is like ours, 75% of your conversations with the ex are frustrating. If you are in the early years of being a stepmom let me tell you things will get easier! You may never be best friends with your kids' mom but communication will improve simply because you will both know neither is going anywhere and no one wants to have those issues … [Read more...]

Engage

  I was thinking today as I was playing basketball with T (at his invitation and I'm not good) what are the ways I have changed over the years to bring us to this point where we can hang out are doing fun stuff like playing HORSE. 1. Just be there No disrespect to my husband or T's mom but I'm the one that has consistently been there for him whether it's an activity at school or a sports event. I've been fortunate to have a job that allows for a flexible schedule so I can do … [Read more...]