Childhood

  When I was in preschool and elementary school my mom had an in-home daycare. You could say I was a self-appointed assistant director at my mom's daycare. I would enforce rules and direct games. Some people may have called me a bossy child because of this. I choose to think of it as developing leadership skills during my childhood. True leadership skills were developed in middle and high school through 4-H. Go ahead. Laugh. Picture me in boots and spurs as an awkward teen. I … [Read more...]

Most memorable moment

  Five days past my due date with my first bio-kid, I was still working. I wasn't having any contractions yet so I figured why not. The plan was to work the rest of the week because I knew this baby was coming in a week one way or another. (The doctor would induce in a week if the baby didn't come on its own.) That day, I was on a conference call for work about our annual budget before heading to the doctor for my weekly check-up. I was feeling frustrated. Work was frustrating … [Read more...]

Three Ways to Make Back to School Less Stressful

I love back to school season. And not because the kids go back to school but I love the fresh start, autumn around the corner, school supplies and new clothes. But... it can be a little hectic. Summer never seems long enough so everyone is rushing to buy back to school outfits and supplies at the last minute. Everything on your supply list seems to be sold out. And you're not sure if you are supposed to get your stepkid a new backpack or if biomom is planning on that. Here are three ways … [Read more...]

How to Have Less Worry and More Peace

One of my very first blog posts back in May 2013 was about spring break. It's funny how much things have changed in those few short years between then and now. I remember how worried I was then. How much I stressed about this child that I loved so much, and I still do, but had so little control over. Do you ever control your children? Biological or step? No, we really don't. But back then I worried so much for his safety - physical, emotional and spiritual. I hated that time away from us … [Read more...]

2 Ways to be Present with Your Kids

Couple of days ago T was playing with the indoor basketball hoop (that is actually the baby's but that's another story 😊) and he turned to me and said "where's the ball?" You guys, I spent probably a good five minutes looking for the ball before I turned around and looked at him. You know where the ball was? Under his shirt! T thought it was hilarious that he tricked me. I felt bad. Really bad. If I had just stopped and really looked at him I would've seen it right away. I was just … [Read more...]

Giving Grace Even When Kids are Grumpy

Do you ever just feel grumpy? Do you forget to say please and thank you? Do you snap at the people you love? Confession: I do. Why is it then when the teenager is grumpy I get so bent out of shape about it? I don't like feeling this way. I need to ask God to change my heart. To help me give T grace. Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. James 1:19 Rather than get frustrated when he is grumpy, I should listen … [Read more...]

Being Intentional as my Child Learns and Grows

With my little, this season is so much fun. He is learning so much and growing so quickly. This morning s during tummy time, he scooted forward so he could grab a toy that was just out of reach. He was getting his little legs under him and he hadn't done that before. It was very exciting. He loves to read and seriously has since we brought him home from the hospital. At just weeks old he would intently look at the book as we read it him. He'd grab the edges of the book even. Now he starts … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Down Time

From the archives: Down Time   Why is it that it can be so much easier to write about the struggles than it is to write about the good times? Well, I'm going to be intentional in recognizing the good times. Like today, right now T and I are relaxing, hanging out together. I'm reading (and writing this) and he is playing dragonvale, telling me all about his dragons and people visiting his island. I love this time together.   Or last night, my parents took T and me to … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: Family Vacation

From the archives: Family Vacation This was going to be great. Disneyland with my whole family, my not-yet-husband and the boy for five days. So great! I have two nephews both one year younger than T so they were going to have a great time and me and the hubs were going to be the perfect parents on the perfect vacation and we were going to really bond and have such a great time. Except we didn't. Well, I don't want to say we didn't. There were some good times but there were also some … [Read more...]

Rerun Tuesday: No Expectations

From the archives: No Expectations We had several outstanding requests to T's mom regarding his poor grades and plans for the summer. After a couple days of not hearing back I thought for sure her response(s) either would a) never come or b) be negative. I even resorted to checking my hubby's email several times during my workday looking for and expecting the worst. I totally ignored that small voice that said even if you get a response what can you do about it now while you are at … [Read more...]