Rerun Tuesday: Independence

From the archives: Independence

How to teach your teen some independence and responsibility

We are working on teaching T some independence and responsibility. He’s almost 14 and it seems maybe we have done too much for him over the years. Helped him too many times. Rescued him too often.

Consequences and structure are so important to all children but I tend to think even more so with children who split their time between homes. M and I try. There are so many extra dynamics when you co-parent with an ex. It’s easy to blame the other parent for everything! I try to remember that we can’t do that and we can’t control what she does, only what we do and how we parent.

One piece of the independence puzzle is to teach time management. Teens like T need to learn to get to school or appointments on time, to allow for time to study for exams, and to balance multiple commitments. We found too often we have been the back-up alarm in the morning and that always ends in everyone rushing around to get out the door and a grumpy kid.

… continue reading the original post: Independence.


This post is part of a series I’m doing called “Rerun Tuesday” where I will share a post from my archives a couple of Tuesdays a month. I was inspired by Family Fusion Community for the idea. I hope you find this helpful!


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