Careful Communications

Check yourself first: careful communications

We were waiting for a response from the ex (again) about something relating to school/grades. Days go by and not a word. I’ve already got a fight with her going on in my head… “don’t you care that he’s failing?! Don’t you want to talk about this important thing?!” I’ve got what she will say and my clever responses played out. I’m mad. The more I think about it, the madder I get and a real conversation hasn’t even taken place!

When M finally is able to talk to the ex there is no explanation or excuse why she hasn’t been in touch but the conversation is civilized. They discuss matters and put together a plan of action. I want to be mad that she didn’t “care enough” to write back or call sooner. But really does that help? Do I know she doesn’t care enough or was she just busy? I don’t know and it doesn’t really matter, does it? All my frustration got me was an ulcer. Nothing was accomplished by my anger/frustration.

So what’s the lesson here? Don’t hold arguments with yourself. Don’t assume anything. Ask yourself is it true? And check your own attitude before pointing your finger at others. Sounds a bit like what we learned in elementary school don’t you think? Huh. Well, better learned late than never!



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